If Your Child Told You He Was Gay, What Would You Say?

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Genia: I wouldn’t want this life for my children. Black males have it bad enough; adding homosexual to the mix throws in a whole new set of challenges. In the end, it doesn’t matter how I feel. If my children are happy, I’m happy. I would tell them I love them and make sure they know they can come to me for support when the challenges become too much for them.

Andrea: I guess if I had a child and s/he came out I would try my best to support and accept him/her for who s/he is. I think parents want the best for their children and want them to have the best life possible. Parents don’t want to see their children struggle and might see that being a homosexual could bring unwanted challenges to his/her life.

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5 Responses to “If Your Child Told You He Was Gay, What Would You Say?”

Tricia on January 21st, 2010 1:54 pm

I have already had this conversation with my boys. If either one of them came out, I’d just ask them when I get to meet their boyfriend. I really couldn’t care less about something like that, it’s just another part of who they are, like being biracial, and I’ll love them no matter who they end up as in the end. I have raised them to be true to themselves, and as long as they are happy with themselves and their lives and choices, then that makes me happy.
Angie on January 21st, 2010 2:45 pm

I would be more accepting of the situation than my mother was with me. People/My mother always ask the question why you would choose that lifestyle. I know that if my child came out to me I would have a better understanding of knowing it’s not a choice one makes. I wouldn’t want my child to go through what I have, or to have to face the extra challenges of being Gay in our society. But I would be there with full support, and help them in any way I could to get through it.
Beth on January 21st, 2010 7:22 pm

I honestly will be surprised if at least one of my children does not grow up to realize they are gay. My eldest struggles greatly with gender issues and has already shared her frustration with the fact that she believes “God made a mistake” for a couple of years. What I have told all three of my children is that love is love and it does not matter whether it is with a man or a woman. The only thing that matters is what your heart tells you. I hope that they will feel comfortable enough with themselves and with me to come to me when/ if they ever need support.
outoutout on January 21st, 2010 7:30 pm

My response would be pretty much the same as everyone else – I’d be proud of him for having the courage to come out and let him know that I’d support him 100%.

Honestly, my hope is that by the time my children are old enough to date (they’re toddlers now), it’ll be as normal as anything else. It’s sad to read that we wouldn’t wish this life on our kids, like it’s a curse or something. It shouldn’t be. No parent wants their child to experience hardship, and for me that’s all the more reason to fight vigorously for the rights and acceptance we deserve.
Kathie on January 22nd, 2010 1:03 pm

My response would be … you are my son and nothing can change that fact. I would give him my 100% support and sign up for pflag.